4 Tips for online transgender dating success

You want the success of online transgender dating (and we want you to too). So use these serious tips to get things done. As a single transgender girl in Los Angeles, I've been dating transgender people online for more than 5 years, and I've earned my reputation as a transgender dating expert and transgender dating drama queen. I've lived through and survived all the drama of online trans dating, and I'm still a hopeful romantic. Here are some guidelines to guide and support your online trans dating journey:

It's important to choose a transgender dating site that's right for you.

Some trans dating sites are known and respected for finding true love, while others are notorious for attracting singles to seek action or speed dating. There's no judgment here, because people's love lives come from different places. If a person has just ended a 10-year marriage, he or she may not be looking for anything serious at this time. However, if a person has been single for five years, he or she may be totally devoted to love. Do your homework and choose the site that works best for you.

Have an objective and honest person in your life read and edit your material before you post it.

You don't want to get yourself wrong in a positive or negative way. It can't be your mom - you know, she'll tell you that you sang better than the singer on the voice, that you were 15 when you were a freshman in college, that you look good in those pictures. Ask a trusted friend or colleague to look at your profile and give them the space to be honest.

Be honest in your information.

If you have children, be honest. If you have pets, be honest. If you smoke, tell the truth. If you live in another state, be honest. If your profile is full of lies, you're not living and sharing your truth, and eventually you'll be discovered. I can't tell you how many people on the Internet have lied to me about having pets. I'm extremely allergic to pets. I asked this pet question in my first email. I dated a guy for a month and really liked him, but I never understood why he didn't invite me to his place and always wanted to stay at my house. It turned out that he had three cats. I was angry and disappointed.

Post at least two photos and make sure one of them is complete. Post warm and welcoming photos. Make sure you're smiling in it.

You want to make a good first impression. Sexy photos are fine, but don't overshoot or reveal too much. Trust me, when men ask for more body shots, it saves you time and self-esteem. I can't count or tell you how many times men have asked me for underwear or bikini pictures, but I can tell you that they are not the men I want to date. You did not send any photos that you are not comfortable with.